In the haste of your daily life, what are you not seeing?

  
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We’re living in an age of speed and rapid acceleration. A rhythm of rush can be found all around us: fast food, fast fashion, fast internet, fast delivery. 

Our schedules are hectic, busy, and packed full of personal and professional responsibilities that swallow us up and then spit us out on the other side, feeling empty, overwhelmed, exhausted, and often lost, at the sense that there’s no way out. 

We’re all wired up, but we’re melting down. 

I like getting more done, faster, and I lived most of my life in the fast lane, but I also recognize how costly it can be to fall for this emotionally-wrecking trap of the hurry-up life philosophy.

Speed is the enemy of depth, nuance, attention to detail, reflection, learning, and rich relationships.

It wasn’t until two years ago when I decided to trade speed for the path to depth, and excellence. 

Honestly, how would you feel if you knew the surgeon operating on you was racing through your surgery while checking email, and writing texts along the way? 

My focus is no longer on speed but shifted to doing what’s most important to me and my growth. It’s no longer about going as fast as possible but all about doing the best I can. 

The faster we move, the less we feel, which may be a primary reason we move so fast. 

Why would you want this too? Why is moving away from a rhythm of rush and shifting to the think slow to move fast way of life exactly what we all desperately need? My key takeaways:

  • You’re putting yourself first, which means that you’re prioritizing your own emotional and mental wellbeing before anyone else’s because you realize that you cannot give from that which you don’t have.

  • You’re becoming more intentional about how you want to live your day-to-day life and the kind of lifestyle you want to lead, so you’re not doing more—you’re doing less of what doesn’t matter so you can do more of what does.

  • You’re not rushing in the mornings. Instead, you’re giving yourself the time to discover how you want to set the tone for the day, so you’re creating rituals that work for you and are tailored to your needs rather than to what society tells you a self-care plan should look like.

  • You’re meditating and reading books to nourish your mind. You’re journaling and making time to practice hobbies that you love so you can feed your soul. You’re treating your body with the respect it deserves. You stretch to stay flexible. You move and exercise regularly. You try to eat healthy wholesome foods, but you also allow yourself the fun of indulging in sweet delights. 

  • Anytime you’re faced with a dilemma, you ask yourself this question: “Does this matter to me?” If the answer is yes, you give it your attention. Otherwise, you let it go.

  • You’re saying “no” more than you’re saying “yes.” You’re protecting your time and safeguarding your energy. You’re not jumping into things just because they sound cool—you’re going back to that question of “does this even matter to me?”

  • You’re learning how to design an environment that is conducive to your growth; you’re choosing to move away from people with negative energies and closer to people who uplift you. That’s how you’re creating more space for wonder and inspiration.

  • You’re starting to accept that struggle is simply the refusal to accept what is. So now you’re teaching yourself how to surrender to the flow of life. You’re learning how to trust the process and you’re becoming more aware of the benefits of focusing only on what’s within your control.

  • You’re slowing down to become more observant and conscious of the beauty all around you. You’re becoming more grateful for all that life has to offer you: The sun in the sky, the soothing sound of the waves kissing the shore, the comfortable bed you get to sleep in tonight.

  • You’re recognizing that the sanctuary is found within you and the only way to reach it is to be kind to yourself first, so you can then be kind to all other humans around you.

It’s a way of being, a mindset that values mindful, intentional decision-making over rapid, intense, and aimless acceleration. So instead of living a life of escapism where you run from what’s wrong, you consciously create a roadmap that poises you for success. When you shift from living in a state of flux and focus on finding your center you can get from where you are to where you want to be.

To thinking slow to move fast.


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ALWAYS BE AT WAR WITH WHAT’S IMPOSSIBLE

Why is it that we are so obsessed with managing time?

  
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It was a bright early morning in April when I and thousands of other marathon runners, tightly nestled together, were led to the start of the race. 

High on adrenaline yet extremely nervous, I couldn’t stop contemplating  “Will I make it to the finish line?” Dare I think I wasn’t the only one.

My entire training schedule had been focused on ‘time’ - crossing that finish line in under 4 hours was my big and only goal. 

But it was during my first 10 km that I realized I’d somehow left out the most important component. 

“ Energy, not time, is the fundamental currency of high performance.” 

When you’re in the race, somehow, time holds little weight. Time, in and of itself, does not alter our state of being - it does not fuel our energy or deplete it.

It’s not a matter of - How will I manage my time to make it to the finish line?

But it all becomes about ‘How will I manage my energy to make it to the finish line?’ A question now more relevant than ever, in running our Marathon of Life. 

Energy isn’t something that’s continuous, energy is a resource that needs to be renewed. Unlike the continuity of time, energy is a resource that depletes and withers with the day. And what we do with our energy does matter. 

How are you managing your energy to make it to the finish line?

Think about it:

  • If we’re physically tired, we’re not going to have the energy to do our best work. 

  • If our mind is consumed with frustration and worries, our mental energy will take a dip and we won’t have the mental capacity to fully focus on the task at hand.

  • If we’re feeling angry or anxious, our emotional energy will take a toll and that will certainly harm our output. Hello, procrastination!

We really only have 3 to 4 hours a day when we are highly energized and sharply focused to create our best work. That’s it.

So, Why is it then that we are so obsessed with managing time? Instead, shouldn’t we manage what we have control over—our own energy?

The 5 Energy Sources We Need to Manage

There are five areas that we need to pay careful attention to when it comes to managing our daily energy:

Physical: 

Are you getting enough sleep? 

Are you making time to move your body throughout the week? 

Are you nurturing your body with the right nutrients?

Mental:

The way we think has an astounding effect on the way others perceive us and how we perform. When you feel confident, you look confident, and you will perform more effectively, increasing the likelihood of success in whatever you are doing as you increase your energy levels in the long-term.

Emotional:

Understanding that emotions are energy implies that they are fluid, moving resources meant to be felt and released vs. suppressed and ignored. The latter is the true culprit of stress burnout. 

What worries/ feelings clutter up your mind that you could let go of this week?

Spiritual:

This involves any activity that nurtures your soul such as spending time in nature. How will you nourish your soul this week? 

Social:

Whether you see yourself as an introvert or an extrovert or someone who lies somewhere in between, socializing (even when it means another zoom call!) can have an incredible impact on your energy - we are social creatures after all.

So now that you know the five sources of energy, here’s a short exercise for you. 

On a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being low energy and 10 being high energy), how would you evaluate your energy levels in each of the categories?

For instance, if you’re feeling tired all the time and you circled a 3 for physical energy, then you now know that you need to give this energy source more attention. Perhaps you should consider scheduling a yoga class or two per week to replenish. Or maybe you already exercise, but you just need to allow yourself the necessity of sleeping 7-8 hours a night.

And the goal is simple - 

Crossing that finish line and finding joy in the journey. 


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Sending positive energy your way! ✨

Big hug,

Louise

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MAY YOUR FEET TAKE YOU WHERE YOU HEART WANTS TO GO!

Rising Above ☁️

  
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How are you hanging in there?

Today, you, me, and everyone in this world is seeking a sense of hope. We’re all searching for ways to fortify ourselves with the will to carry onward in spite of all the continued uncertainty. 

We’re searching for a sign to remind us that there is light at the end of the tunnel. 

Living with so much uncertainty is unquestionably hard. It can leave us feeling stressed, anxious, and powerless and can quickly trap us in an endless downward spiral.

So how can we best maneuver through a world of uncertainty?

We must stay hopeful about the future, even when the present seems woefully negative. 

We must work through our negative emotions (not ignoring them) to better understand what they are trying to tell us. 

We must acknowledge the troubles of today, while also giving ourselves permission to hope, even if we feel extremely anxious, restless, or fearful. 

It’s not about ignoring our negative feelings about the crisis at hand, but about finding a way to keep those feelings from overwhelming us. 

It’s not about suppressing, it’s about rising above. 

Don’t resist

Resisting this current reality won’t help us recover, learn, grow, or feel any better. Ironically, resistance prolongs our pain by magnifying the challenging emotions we are feeling. There is real truth to this pearl of wisdom ‘what we resist persists’.

So what do we do instead? We can learn to accept the things we cannot change. Acceptance is about meeting life where it is, accepting whatever is actually happening at the moment, and moving forward from there.

Ask yourself:

  1. How can I turn the current situation to my advantage?

  2. What resources can support me to overcome the obstacles I am facing?

Do invest in yourself

The best resource that you have right now for making a contribution to the world is YOU. When that resource is depleted, your most valuable asset is damaged. In other words: When we underinvest in our bodies, minds, or spirits, we destroy our most essential tools for leading our best lives.

Ask yourself:

  1. How am I caring for my body?

  2. How am I fueling my mind?

  3. What do I need to show up as my best self?

Don’t believe everything you think 

Perhaps the most essential stress-reduction tactic is not to believe everything you think. In uncertain times, it’s particularly important not to believe thoughts that argue for the worst-case scenario.

It can be helpful for us to consider worst-case scenarios so that we can weigh risks and actively prevent disaster. But when we believe these stressful thoughts, we tend to react emotionally as though the worst case is already happening in real life, rather than just in our heads. 

Instead of buying into every stressful thought, we can actively imagine the best possible scenario. This counters our natural tendency to overestimate risks and negative consequences.

Ask yourself:

  1. Is it true?

  2. Can I absolutely know that it is true?

  3. How do I feel when you think that thought?

  4. What is it costing me to believe that thought?

  5. Who would I be without that thought or belief?

Do pay attention

The opposite of uncertainty is not certainty; it’s presence. Instead of imagining an unknown future, we can bring our attention to our breath. From there, we can check in with ourselves. Every time we wash our hands, for example, we could ask ourselves: How am I doing right now? Notice what emotions you are feeling.

Even when it feels like everything is out of our control, we can still control what we pay attention to. 

We can turn off our alerts to keep the news or social media from hijacking our awareness. We can drop our ruminations and negative fantasies by attending to what’s actually happening in our inner world, right now, here in the present.

Attending to what is happening within us at any given moment keeps a crappy external reality from determining our inner truth. It allows us to cultivate calm, open-mindedness, and non-reactivity.

So, don’t hide under the duvet waiting for all of it to be over. Small shifts in your thinking, and small changes in your energy, can lead to massive transformations in your life experience. 

Committed to keeping your vibrations high and here to move you, inspire you, and amplify your power.

Let the light in - have a magical weekend! ✨

With love,

Louise Heite

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Dare to believe the whispers in your ear, that you might be special, that you might be meaningful, that one day you might change the world. It's us you see, the ones who listen, that will change everything. – Atticus


The One Superpower We Don't Use Enough

Developing a sense of wonder can be its own reward.

“Why?”

This is a question I was asked about 107 times per hour over the past two weeks, and I’m amazed at how the answer to one question catalyzed the next. 

Remember when you were a child and everything was brand new? 

For the longest time, I believed in having “arrived” in life, thinking I got everything figured out.

Indeed, modern society tells us to “get our head out of the clouds” and get to work. A world where everything just seems more comfortable when we stay in our own bubble and go on autopilot. 

After all, how much more is out there for me?

With age and wisdom, our existence seems to shrink as we learn to define what is and is not possible for us–but oftentimes we set limits where there doesn’t have to be any.

The result of trying to squeeze myself into the neatly defined limits left me feeling woefully inadequate…

Because the moment I accepted my bubble, another part of me immediately yearned for something more.

‘Why?’ I wondered and reluctantly shut down the dreamer in me for the “practical” choice.

By nature, humans are wired for growth, it is an essential component of life. We each have infinite potential if we simply allow ourselves to glimpse it. 

Ask yourself the following questions:

  • Who could I be if I allowed myself to confront my fears?

  • Who could I be if I allowed myself to unapologetically dream?

  • Who could I be if I allowed myself to go beyond my neatly defined limits?

The moment I started asking myself these questions, I realized: Who I am and what I’m capable of is not something that is limited nor fixed. 

While who I am today gives an indication of the outcomes of my life experience thus far, they don’t fully express my spirit - a spirit that is curious, adventurous, loving, passionate, empathetic, at times insecure and sad, (and that’s ok!), an amalgamation of past experiences and conversations and small moments.

Those are the things that have shaped who I’ve become, and none of that, none of me, is fixed or limited, and that is what makes this journey so beautiful. 

So I want to remind you…

You are not limited, your time is. 

Your past is not your potential, your future is.

You are more powerful than what you fear.

Within you is the light of a thousand suns. So...

Get Curious

Don’t be afraid to try it

Explore it

Poke at it

Question it

I’m so excited to see you thrive. Here’s to an expansive 2021 ♡.


Curiosity is the most powerful force on this planet.


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Thank you for being you,

Louise Heite

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What one word reflects your intention for this coming year?

In this 2021, I want for you to live louder. Laugh more. Sing at the top of your lungs...

Today, it's about you.


Hello friend! Today marks the last day of 2020. It marks the end of what has been for many a torturous cycle of fear and doubt. Know that what was is no more and what was learned are valuable tools to pave the way forward.

In 2021, my wish for you is to live louder. Laugh more. Sing at the top of your lungs. Drive with the windows down and let the wind rustle through your hair. Hug longer. Connect deeper. Surround yourself with people who make you feel alive. Be the type of person that brings good energy wherever you go. Speak what's on your mind. Tell others that you love them. Live louder. Shine brighter. Have no doubts dear… you are the sun. Let it shine on you.

But my message today? Is about YOU, and I’m here to listen like never before and root for you! Today, I’m inviting you to hit that “reply” button below and share with me in a few words the energy that you're calling into your coming year. What words encapsulate the intention you'd like to set? I’m SO excited to hear from you.

To new beginnings! ✨

Love,

Louise

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THE FUTURE IS YET IN YOUR POWER.

Thank you for being here 🙏. I am so grateful for you and I look forward to continue this journey in 2021! 💛

@louiseheite, Founder, LifeActivated, Coaching High-Performers

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